Have you ever had one of those mornings of self evaluation when you realized some of the crazy you deal with is you? Well that was my morning today. I learned many years ago that I needed to do an honest self evaluation periodically to truly allow God to create in me in a clean heart and renew in me a right spirit. My heart needed a tune-up, a behavior that I've long overcome crept back up, (trying to be controlling by overtalking my husband). At the time I really believed that what I was saying "needed" to be said because my point of view was more important than his, lol!!!! In his true loving self, he just looked at me and shook his head and said, "if you have all the answers then why are we talking"? Not good:-( I immediately felt terrible and apologized to my boo, and then asked the Lord to help me never go back to old behaviors that He's given me the strength to overcome, conquer and walk away from completely.
The words and tone of a wife to her husband can set the tone of a conversation, change the mood of the atmosphere and turn the direction of the topic. There's a well know saying that goes "The husband is the head, but the wife is the neck that turns the head in any direction it choses". That can be good and bad depending on your motives. If you're trying to get what you want, your turning becomes manipulation. If you're trying to make a point that encourages your husband to take a leap of faith, your turning becomes encouraging. If you're belittling your spouse into cowering down to prove a point, your turning becomes toxic. If you're speaking to your husband with high regard, complimenting and edifying him with your words, your turning becomes life building. Check your motives, how do your words and actions impact your husband? Are you turning his head, or breaking his neck?
In all you do, do it in love,
Tanya
The words and tone of a wife to her husband can set the tone of a conversation, change the mood of the atmosphere and turn the direction of the topic. There's a well know saying that goes "The husband is the head, but the wife is the neck that turns the head in any direction it choses". That can be good and bad depending on your motives. If you're trying to get what you want, your turning becomes manipulation. If you're trying to make a point that encourages your husband to take a leap of faith, your turning becomes encouraging. If you're belittling your spouse into cowering down to prove a point, your turning becomes toxic. If you're speaking to your husband with high regard, complimenting and edifying him with your words, your turning becomes life building. Check your motives, how do your words and actions impact your husband? Are you turning his head, or breaking his neck?
In all you do, do it in love,
Tanya
